Decision Making and Life performance. To Change Your Attitude Towards Decision Making.

 

The power to make Decisions is a leader’s quality.

Lack of decision making ability is one of the causes of Excessive anger, broken relationships, Dream failure, low self-esteem, low self-value and low self-worth, in summary, it is the reason you are not succeeding as a leader.

When you were a child you were never burdened with the responsibility of making decisions, you enjoyed the grace of adult’s decision, even if at times you were never comfortable with some of it.

Children are not given the responsibility of making major decisions, because every decision or choice comes with a price, either positive or negative.

The choices you make determines how much you know, value and like yourself. Refusing to make a choice is a choice on its own.

The power to make a choice was given to you long ago. Some people are still hunted by the shadows of childhood, in which adults were their sole decision makers and so they fail to make decision themselves.

While I was still in high school, I deprived myself of the opportunities of exercising this leadership quality. I enjoyed the decisions made by my colleagues, my friends and anyone who I can drain similar energy from.

It was easier to erase my option in an exam only to choose another, which I wouldn’t know about, because the guy sited next to me chose that one.

Frustrating your power to make decisions when you are of age did not just began.

Like I said, it all began by your parents telling you to stay indoors that going outside is bad and that, if you decide to step outside there is a price to pay. And you never listened, so you stepped out and parent comes home and you pay the price for disobedient. And whenever you obey, you were rewarded.

These pattern of training took over your decision making power. It made you lost the faith in your own decisions.

Simply put, most people are powerless when it comes to deciding because of their past experiences with decision making. They are afraid that their own decision often comes with a negative price, and so they trust the decision of friends and other adults.

How do you know your decision power is weak?

Your decision making power is weak;

1. If most of your answer to a Yes or NO question is ‘I don’t know, I am not sure, don’t ask me’.
2. If you are always doing something because everyone did it.
3. If you change your mind too many times on a particular subject.
4. If you cannot plan ahead of the game.

However, there are negative prices to pay when you refuse to use your decision making ability.

When you deprive yourself of the opportunity to decide strongly about a thing, you stand a chance to suffer for other people’s mistake, which can lead to more problems for you. For instance, while I was giving up my power of decision to friends and class mates, I suffered failure and other corporal punishments, which was a result of their decision.

Lacking the ability to decide for yourself can permanently take away your self-value, self-worth and self-esteem. Leaders are people who as a result of having a strong power of decision, possess a high level of value, esteem and worth for themselves.

Revive your decision making ability which have long become dormant.

Know that you are an adult, if anyone is to decide for any one, it is you. It was okay when you were still a child, but it is abnormal now that you are an adult.

You need decision power to marry, you need decision power to raise children, and it is all you need as an adult.

Strengthen your decision making power, how do you do this?

1. Detach yourself from individuals that seem too controlling, that always wants their own decision to stand.
2. Be ready to walk alone, even if no one is ready to work with you.
3. Remember, you have only one chance to live.
4. Be ready to pay the prices for your decision, so far it is your decision
5. Take responsibility of the results of your decisions.
6. Be resolute, Yes or No.
7. Make your choices based on your purposes in life, in other words, choose if it is directly related to what you want out of life.
8. Change your mind only when you discover that what you doing is not in line with what you want.
9. Embrace risk.

Furthermore, to strengthen your decision making ability, you need to discover your purpose.

When you discover and know what you have to do, you will stop following what other people think, you will stop looking forward to other people’s opinion which is capable of damaging your dream, you will have all round life happiness and you will be better.

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