Excessive Anger and Life Performance

Excessive anger is the reason behind many unsuccessful businesses and relationships. Some people don’t even realized what anger is costing them. Anger is seen as an emotional type natural for human beings when it does not infringe on any social norms both the written and the unwritten, otherwise you are seen as a deviant.

I personally have been a victim of excessive anger in the past, it somehow felt good to beat the hell out of people who did not really expect you would make war out of a joke and I was tempted to believe that it was an ability that only special people had.

People who have anger problems are unhappy people, most of them are unsuccessful in professional as well as social areas. In relationships little things are intensified and leads to breakups or divorce in family cases. In work or business environment nobody wants to work with or under a person who normally screams every word out, so these frustrations in work and in relationships leads to a more intensified anger and you keep losing yourself the more.

Excessive anger is a mental disorder. It comes from the feeling of inferiority, low self-esteem, frustration, stress and fatigue. It can go a long way to damage a person’s career and eventually the person himself. If you’d continue to pounce on your friends out of a little jokes they will walk away from you, if you’d keep pounding the telephone and abruptly hangs up on your business partners they will leave you and at the end you would have succeeded in damaging your life.

People who have lost a lot due to anger resolve to alcoholism and other addictions. Addictions, specifically to drugs weakens one ability to control anger. In other words, addicts are angry people. Certainly then alcoholism is not the solution to anger and any other addiction simply means feeding the fire.

The feeling that one is less pretty, less intelligent as compared to other persons rises the feeling of anger in people. They want to be noticed if they are feeling like they are not being notice. They will attempt to pluck your eye out, if they think you better than them, which actually In most situation the opposite is even the case.

Leveling it out on your spouse or your children is not a proper way to manage stress, it is only a way to warrant the signature for divorce. If you are stressed out after a tough day in the office make it known, sit in front of the television or better yet sleep. Stress are better relieved through sleep.

Low self-esteem which is another author of anger can only be fought if you stand up to the reality that all men are equal. The problem about you is that you are not using what you came to the world with, You refuse yourself the good things of the world. If you keep saying to yourself, it’s better than me or its not for me you are creating a room for low self-esteem which can eventually lead to excessive anger.
People with excessive anger can mostly do things when they are angry and it is always noticed. They are reluctant to give a speech because they feel they are not good enough, and eventually when they are compelled to do so, they do it out of anger and most times rushing through the whole thing.

They don’t have specific friends. They are mostly found with their gadgets hidden away in their private rooms. They are socially incapable.

Like I said earlier anger is an emotional type which indicates that you are a human being, but when it is excessive it becomes a problem. When is anger then term as excessive? Once when I was in high school there was this guy I knew, who from my analysis was doing better than I but I doubt he saw it that way. I made a joke one day, I called him illiterate which is just passively what buddies do, well I had to dodge a kerosene lamp that was coming my way in full speed, that was not all, I got some bonus punches to my face that landed me in the school clinic. I sort of thought him to be a bully so I shoved his profile out of my dear life. When you suffer from excessive anger, even yourself will be in disagreement with your reaction. Some bold people will blame you. However, self and public blames do not always solve the problem, they make it worst.

In my opinion your anger is excessive when it becomes a habit. No one disagrees with you any more, you want to be the boss or else. When you get angry to things that is seen as normal to other people you have to check yourself.

When you destroy your new television because you got pissed off by your contractor, that is excessive. People with excessive anger relieves themselves after they have successfully destroyed their friendship or their adored property. You will see them kicking at everything, including the wall. No problem if you kicking the wall anyway, but that’s excessive. Normally the victim of excessive anger knows he or she has a problem, some of them just enjoys it and so refuses to do anything about it, wait till I tell you what you are sacrificing for the ability to storm out of your boss’s office.

Psychologists have out listed a number of anger disorder and anger symptoms which I will be mentioning here, just in case you are suffering from one.

a)   Passive anger: this is not a hyper intensive anger and normally goes unnoticed. This then could be seen as the natural impulse of man to get angry. Natural emotion then. In my opinion if you are suffering from this one, you are safe.

b)    Chronic anger: this is the type that is likely going to destroy you. It is a prolonged type of anger and can usually lead to other mental disorder. Say no.

c)    Self-inflicted anger: getting angry with yourself. Why would a person get angry with his or her own self, except you don’t like yourself? You want to be like some other person, well that won’t help you. Be like you, show yourself much love, you are unique.

d)    Volatile anger: if you suffering from this then you are the type that is likely going to stab someone repeatedly after a joke.

e)    Judgmental anger: unlike self-inflicted anger this one is directed towards other people.

What are the symptoms of excessive anger, it includes, Tingling, Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest, increased blood pressure, Headaches, Pressure in the head or sinus cavities and Fatigue.

The Price for Excessive Anger

There are prices to pay, you can't go free.it includes:

1.  Joblessness: people with excessive anger finds it hard to work under a person. They mostly think they don’t just enjoy working under people, meanwhile the truth is they can’t work under people. They can’t even succeed in their own startup businesses, customers abscond.
2. Unhappiness: if you are jobless how can you be happy? When you are seeing life as not being fair you can never be happy.
3. Unfulfilled life: everybody you meet you chase away with your attitude, no one wants to come any close to you, so at the end of your life you die unfulfilled.
4. Loneliness: no friends and no family loneliness is the result. This often can lead to a more destructive case like suicide.
5.  Addiction: you can further destroy your life by feeling that drinking is the way out or doing drugs, the result is always worst.

How to deal with excessive anger

1.  Find the good: finding the good is simply going with the moment. You can’t get mad at your boss’s comment and expect to go free, so instead do the opposite, find something funny or good about the moment and fly into it to save your job.
2.  Drugs: certain chemical suppressant drugs can be prescribe by a doctor. While this drugs may help, they can cause different other sicknesses which could be far worst, so it is advisable to strictly take on doctor’s prescription.
3. Counselling: getting a professional counselling session is the number one choice. For a professional counselling session click here,  
4. Self-help: most anger was consciously grown by the victim suffering from it today. They saw it as a means of dominating in the social world and so it can be reverse by the victim as well. When the urge to get angry arises, simply refuse to be angry. Better yet leave the scene quietly with a fake smile. If that is not okay, tell the person to stop that you are hurt. Consciously watch out for your emotions.

The good things of this world is meant for no other person but you. You got to love yourself more to take them. You are not an inferior model of human being there is nothing like that. If by any reason you think you are inferior or socially outdated, know that you can upgrade to a better version of you in a day if you want or you may choose to stick to the original version of you. No one is like you, stop comparing yourself and use what you have to your advantage.

When you overcome excessive anger you start living, Joy flows within you. You begin to see the real beauty of life, and your dreams come true.